Moral dilemma with a girl? -

Hi there, I’m afraid it’s not such a short story but I’d really appreciate if you could bear with me and tell me what you think… In April 2008 I met this girl to fall in love with via an old friend of mine and what had started with a bang turned into a really hot affair where we both would try and meet as often as possible. These meetings were always really passionate and the chemistry between us was amazing … we soon figured out that we were falling in love with each other but I’m not a very pushy character and another reason why we didn’t take this relationship further was that to begin with, I was still in a deteriorating relationship with another girl so I was not really completely free for her in the beginning I had told her that I would probably not be able to be with her because of this. So, my new girl in the meantime and since she didn’t believe that I would really be able to be with her, started another affair with a successful photographer who she says was mainly a way for her to “protect herself” from me… she says that she doesn’t love him but uses him for getting into the whole photography thing which always had been a dream of hers… the guy even took her on a photo shooting trip to another country for two weeks during which she kept sending me signals that she really wanted me, that she didn’t love the guy etc. This whole thing with the other guy was so horrible for me and so hard to understand since in the meantime she always kept seeing me and telling me that she really wanted to be with me… I mean if you are really freshly fallen in love with someone, can you have another relation with someone else that easily? Most people would have their problems with this but I found out another thing about her… she basically belongs to a select group of women that have more or less successfully mastered the separation of sex and love since she also works as a high class luxury escort for an agency earning a lot of money and apparently has no real issues with making someone believe that he’s real hot to her although she doesn’t care for him… (photography = money?)… at the same time she also tells me that she’s not happy with this life, that she wants out and that she needs my help and that she wants to be with me… on top of this, the photographer is all crazy for her too, similarly as myself I guess, but there is an important difference… he doesn’t know about me nor about the prostitution thing, otherwise I guess he would be gone, the same way that I should be gone too maybe… You see my dilemma is that I believe her that she really loves me and that’s what keeps me stuck like glue and crazy for her… over all the time we spent together she NEVER tried to take financial advantage of me, rejected my attempts to treat her to something expensive never asked for money nor accepted it and moreover, always told me the truth although it wasn’t that pretty… I made it clear to her that she would have to choose since I couldn’t force myself to be with someone who would continue to earn money like this (whereas I could see myself being with someone that had this past) and that she would have to dump the photographer. So, she really is the girl of my dreams and I’m sure she loves me too but I’m also quite scared of all this now… |::::|I could work, but not with you demanding the changes. She has a lifestyle that has benefited her. The odds are against you and she having a successful long term relationship. I suggest continue taking it slowly and enjoying what you have - but you must give up the jealousy stuff. Good Luck |::::|Wow.. that is really really long.|::::|Run, don t walk. This woman is bad news. Try to find a decent woman who doesn t think it s ok to sleep her way to the top or work in an escort service, which is basically a form of prostitution. You need a life, not a daytime drama. This is not the only fish in the sea.