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Hi, I m sick of explaining this but yes I m eighteen years old, female, I m not bad looking and I am a fairly nice girl, yet I just can t help to notice things lately have been bringing me down, I have finished High School and I have started work at this local cafe not far away where I live as a starting apprentice, chef, there are two other chefs there, one is in his third year going to do his other year elsewhere, and the other guy has done his first year, but both of them in particular the one that has been there longer. He trains me and teaches me how to do stuff, like cook, clean but when he tells me off or tries to explain it he does it in the most nasty way, because he doesn t tell me, for example I got some bread out and went to put it under the griller but there was allready some in there, so I got yelled at for doing that when he should of told me that he did put it under the grill. I mean I have been there for around four weeks now, but both of them are really nasty when they try and teach me, and one of them said to me quot;I m lucky I m not a guy, because I would probably get crap thrown at me or something or yelled morequot;, I mean I have to put up with the assholes, and even the manager is a bit of a dick too, so I am lost here I shouldn t have to deal with this...when I finish work I have to stop myself from crying when I get home. It makes me think that most people out there are like this.., and this is the first full time job I have gotten into and it s so terrible, I don t even think anyone cares about the way I get treated there at work.., I get treated inhuman like. I already have problems at home and I m hurt inside from all the trying to find nice friends..., but I m so sick of this, I also do cadets, my hone life is dysfunctional, I live with my mother and nasty sister, I have no friends, I have no one and it only makes me feel even more depressed, yeah I m earning money but I don t even know how to make friends it s been that long.....somebody please help me, don t tell me to buck up either because like all my other questions, it hasn t helped. I just wish I had friends..., where do I go, because I feel unnoticed, like I m reaching out and in all my emptiness I find the same thing, assholes or not nice people who don t seem to care about my problems. I feel like I m fading away here, it doesn t help that Christmas is soon, and I have nothing and no one to talk to, except to keep it all inside. So someone please help me here, *gets teary eyed*. http://c4.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/image... That link I gave you, is a picture of me, so you tell me, I guess I m doomed to have no one, look am I really ugly or something?... Is there something wrong with me, *drops on her knees*.|::::|You keep talking about your looks and then not getting any respect for your work/cooking. Maybe you suck as a cook. Anyway, you are good looking from what I can see and if you work doesn t suck and they are @ss holes. I would say it is either time to fight back or look for a new job. Maybe they are just testing you to see if you are tough enough for this kind of work ???|::::|Hey, Let me tell you that I understand your feeling completely. Unfortunately in regards to the work side of it, that s just how it is, every job is probably the same. You re always going to come across people who are nasty, people you don t get along with etc. You just have to try your best to ignore them, do what you are there to do, and get out. It hurts more when you suffer through a day like that and you go home to more problems, or you re just not feeling too good and it s the last thing you need on top of that. Also, I know that it is hard to make new friends, and it s harder to make a new relationship, especially after you leave school. I have that problem now. Sure I could join a forum, or go to a group with shared interests or whatever, but there s no personal connection there. I don t like to be around people just for the sake of it, and I think you might feel the same way? You want somebody to really connect to, but its hard, especially a relationship. You can t just jump into a meaningful relationship. You have to work to make it work, if that makes sense. Sorry, I m not sure I can really give you an answer, rather I can just sympathize. Oh yeah, and the photo is cute.|::::|A lot of people feel this way after getting out of high school or college, it s scary to feel that you re that much closer to having to do and pay for everything by yourself. You should get a new job. Sometimes men don t understand at all, they can be pretty closed off from realizing how mean they are to you, you can either stand up for yourself and tell them that they shouldn t treat you this way and if they ve done something, tell you first so you don t make the same thing. But the best answer is get a new job. Your first full time job will be hard to find, doesn t matter how hard you try to find a new job, you should find one, getting a job that works for you will make you feel more at ease and happier which will also help with family life and possible depression you may have. As for family life, I used to think my sisters were extremly mean to me, since I m the youngest I felt like they paired up and went against me and I never thought to really get to know them and what s happening in their life. Later on, i did and now we give each other advice and never fight unless teasingly. So get to know your sister, if you just sit around moping about how your sister is quot;nastyquot; you ll never get to know her and you ll miss out on being close which will later on make you feel guilty or lonely when you grow up and want to share important memories. As for friends, join clubs and lots of them. I find that because I play sports, I m in clubs and I take classes that interest me I have lots of friends because I share a common interest with them. And as for being quot;doomedquot; you re not, you just need to stop thinking that way, guys can see through that and see that you have low self-esteem. And everyone has someone, they just need to go out there and find them but don t be desperate about it, everything happens on its own. Hope that helps! (sorry it s so long)|::::|Ahhh yes I ve had three jobs in my time out of school and all of them have been hell someday s are just so boaring and its so hard to take their $hit 5 days a week. Don t worry this world has its way of balancing out and they won t get any farther by running you down. Think of the good things in life and aim for a goal. Its hard to have a job now a days and keep your pride but a job is not worth your self worth. Remember that you are doing your best and thats all you can do. I have had some bad days and they truly suck. sounds like you just got a bad job hopefully you can fall into the right place. Good luck you will find friends don t worry.|::::|I think the only thing wrong with you is the people around you! Change your job, it is definately not like that everywhere. I have had jobs like that in the past but won t tolerate them anymore. Changing jobs may also bring new people into your life and possibly new friends too. Go for it! Get away from those losers - they don t deserve you. x|::::|I understand very well what you are talking about and the only thing i can say is not everyone is like this, What I have noticed is jobs like cook, or line worker are very high stress. The people in these jobs have to be the way they are because well thats how everyone is in these careers. Honestly cook being the worst because in my opinion (I used to be a cook by the way) it is hard work and very taxing. It is physically grueling and very taxing (plus the pay is **** in my opinion) I myself ran into the same situation and had to leave that career. I am now a taking developmental psychology and love it. Honestly it sounds as though ur feeling a bit of depression because of the troubles your having at work and such. What you need to do is just relax and look at the situation methodically, maybe this isnt the career for you. It takes alot to be a cook and honestly that type of work wasnt for myself. It sounds as though your a very caring person, maybe you should look into another career. Maybe something like social work, or maybe even psychology. Also I dont think you should be obsessing or looking for approval of your looks. All I will say about it is im currently in a college of 14 000 students and you would definitially be considered damn good looking in comparison lol. Honestly just start looking into careers and maybe start thinking college, if you dont have the funds there is osap and other goverment grants that can be gotten.