Mother enforcing religion to me, help? -

I am a bit ashamed, but I don t have anyone else to turn to. For a long time, I am enduring terrible things from my mother in the name of Ortodox Christianity. When I say terrible things, I mean violence, mostly psychical but sometimes also physical, horrible attempts at brainwashing and degrading unbelievers, and lot of humiliation for me. I am a girl, so I hear a lot about my role , how I am to listen to her because parents own children and must listen to them until they are wed and after wedding they must listen to husband. She is enforcing fasting on me too, threatening me with Hell whether we are alone or in presence of another, making me to kneel in front of icon, denying me food and pocket money so I would end up fasting anyway. I remember how she listened about tsunami striking somewhere and she said if they had been Ortodox Christians they would still be alivequot;. She buys me crosses and books of holy people often and looks at me like I am lower creature than she is, like she knows more than I do. She is not known as a reader of the Bible, but is following her own ideas of religion. She is making scenes because I don t wear cross, she hates all that looks like it isn t christian. She often made me to do things she wanted to do when she was young. She made me lose two years in schooling because she put me in schools she wanted me to study. She shakes head in disgust when I wish to show her how I progress in my school.I am an artist, and she doesn t let me draw because only God can create. She hates my friends. But in presence of others she is awfully nice and nobody ever believed me that what I say is true. I am 21 now, but it means nothing to her, she repeats me that she owns me. I have nowhere to go, because of my school shedule I have no time to work and earn money for myself. She never spends any time with me, she is obsessed with a man she wants to marry and she almost all time spends there. Months pass by without me seeing her sometimes. She has only few friends, and they all encourage her to keep fighting for for my soul for God . When I ask her does she think if I have a chance to do something, answer is God knows only . I need some help, be it in verses that can shield me from this kind of behavior, or advises. I have no material proof of her deeds to me.|::::|I think your best source of help is your priest (your mother s priest). You need to set up an appointment with him. Tell him that you are confused about some of the things your mother is teaching you regarding Orthodoxy and ask him to counsel you. He should not refuse -- he is the spiritual father of your church. Your mother cannot possibly object to you having these private meetings with the priest. And when you tell him some of the things that she has been saying -- which seem off to me, from what I know about Orthodox Christianity -- two good things will happen. You ll get the truth from him, and he will know how to counsel your mother, which ought to help improve things overall. As for having a quot;normalquot; relationship with your mother...you need to stop imagining the perfect mother-daughter relationship. Nobody has that, anyway. A relationship is based on the authenticity of the two people involved, and you can only be yourself and accept her for who she is. No, it won t be ideal...it may never be ideal, or it may grow into something good once she gets help with some of her issues from the priest. But that s true for *every* mother and daughter. May God bless you.|::::|You are an ADULT for crying out loud,claiming your earnings is illegal,have her thrown in the slammer,plenty of like minded numpties in there.|::::|Find someone you trust and move out. There are domestic violence shelters. My advice to seek them out.|::::|Claim the money! You earned it. Then move out and start your life anew. You could also seek legal help.|::::|Leave her alone and abandoned, that should do it.|::::|you have your own mind and MUST make your own choices... after all is that why her god created free will... she cant argue stuff like that|::::|I m so sorry for your situation. Do you have any of your art online anywhere?|::::|Unfortunately I think that the only way that you will be able to move on with your life is if you cut her out completely. Disown her and do not claim her as your mother. From reading your description of what she has done to you and what she continues to do to you, I believe that there is no other possible option. I am so sorry that you got the short straw in life when it comes to your mother, I was extremely lucky because I have an awesome mother who I wouldn t trade for the world. The sooner you cut her out, the better. It s time to take back what she took from you; your life.|::::|That certainly is not Christianity you are being made to endure. Christianity is great, but what she is doing is coming from herself, and she s hiding behind religion to give it a covering of some sort of validity.(which it surely is not valid, what she s doing) IF you really want to reach her, and help yourself, seriously- get a Bible and read it, learn what it says, and begin to ask her questions about things directly from the Bible. Confronting her with the actual words from God will prove to her that she is seriously on the wrong track. As for being owned, no, never. Parents do not own their children. They are responsible to them, responsible for them, but are not owners of them.|::::|If all this is true, she is a fanatic and that gives real Christians a bad name. But you are 21 and legally can do as you wish. Break away from the relationship if you need to. I hate to have any child stop having a relationship with a parent, but you are an adult now, do what you feel is right and to heck with her forcing here fanatacism down your throat.|::::|I am trying to understand, but in the first part of your rant, you explain how she is forcing you to DO what she wants you to do etc...then you go on to explain that in spite of that enforcement you are still in school at 21.....then you go on to complain that she is never around and you never get to see her..... so, whats the problem? either she is there making you do things you dont want to do...or she isnt there at all? and for the record...at 21 why would you need her to give you pocket money????|::::|This isn t good. It isn t right for parents to do that sort of thing to their children, God put you in her care, but you can make your own decisions. If she is lovingly correcting you, then it is okay, but this sounds like harsh judgmentality. She may just be following dogma instead of Christ, but I am not sure. The Bible does say to honour and respect your mother, so this is a hard one...|::::|Tell her that the Quran was sent down to mankind, to confirm the books that came before it (Torah, Old/New Testament), and show her these seven verses out of the Quran, they will open the door of salvation if she chooses to continue. In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 1. Praise be to Allah, the Cherisher and Sustainer of the worlds; 2. Most Gracious, Most Merciful; 3. Master of the Day of Judgment. 4. Thee do we worship, and Thine aid do we seek. 5. Show us the straight way, 6. The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace, 7 Those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.|::::|Move out. Get far from her physically. Don t decide to hate her or not love her though, because she is trying in her authoritative way to try to steer you in the best way she knows how, but she doesn t know much nor how very well, forgive her. Forgiving her is VERY important, otherwise YOU will have trouble in the future with the grudges and issues you will nurture. She is not free from sin, or error, she is very human, and has likely been permitted to continue this horrible treatment of you because of your humility. Your humility is not bad, it is good, but don t be driven totally in the opposite direction where she is trying to steer you. You should do something better than what she wants. Actually FIND the truth and believe in it, and you can have the moral high ground and you can show her spiritual nakedness to her, and perhaps even convert her to the Truth. I know that the truth will be shocking to you, as it is to everyone who finds Him. But believe, and you will be set free... find it at http://www.yahuwshua.org|::::|I m sorry this is happening to you, it must be horrible. It seems that she is no longer of any use to you and even though she is your mother you should probably avoid her like a plague until she realizes how wrong she is both religiously and as a mother Let her know that she is hurting you and if she loves you for real, she will stop. If not then she can no longer be in your life if you are going to be happy|::::|If you are in the USA or any other Western country, please call the Child Protection Services immediately. Tell them what is happening to you. Keep calling them until they help you. Your mother is insane. EDIT: I am sorry that you cannot seek help where you are. Hopefully you will survive this until you are an adult. At that time you had better leave and go far away, come to a Western country where you can live freely and marry who you like because you love him and he loves you and will treat you well. So do what you can now to make money, can you get a job of some kind and save back some of the money from it secretly? Do whatever you have to do to make the way for you to leave when you are old enough. Since you are 21, which I didn t realise until now, you are old enough to leave. You have no reason to stay there.