Sponsoring a Wedding? Wedding Grants? -

Why do people on here even think of getting someone else to pay for their wedding? Why would you think anyone other than the couple should pay for the wedding? What happened to hard-working people who get a job, save up, and pay for their own wedding? I don t even have a problem with people whose parents are chosing to pay for the wedding because at least somebody EARNED the money to pay for it and they weren t scouring for freebies and handouts. What is wrong with our society that people think they should be entitled to grants or corporate sponsorships in order to get married?|::::|They are DELUSIONAL. This type of delusions are caused by ignorance and also the sense of entitlement of some welfare system abusers and they believe continue to get hand me downs and free stuff without moving a finger. People are lazy, greedy and irresponsible... but worse of all is the IGNORANCE that irritatesme There is no such thing as goverment grants for parties. Is someone honestly believes this they must be using the welfare money and food stamps for drugs. People should get an education and a JOB like everyone else. Good luck|::::|I m in Scotland and this is a new one to me. Have read about an occassional competition where you win the dress of your dreams, reception paid for or whatever but not sponsoring or Wedding Grants. If this is what is happening elsewhere then thank God I live in a wee country. I have two daughters married and as parents we did pay for the wedding but that was out choice. The girs/boys also paid for quite a lot of other things related to the wedding. Every family is different and often the wedding is paid for here by the bride and groom, sometimes both sets of parents, sometimes a combination of both but NEVER what you are saying.|::::|These people have the Bridezilla mentality (quot;It s all about what I want..ME ME ME..blah blah blah..It s MY day!quot;) and don t understand how to live within their means. Sorry but not everyone can afford to get married in a castle or a 50 foot tall wedding cake. People need to grow up and get real. Couples should pay for their own wedding and if family members want to help out, that s wonderful. But it shouldn t be expected. Corporate handouts or grants for a wedding have to be the most ridiculous notions I ve ever come across. Anyone who comes on this board asking about such nonsense needs to read and repeat these words: quot;I am not a celebrity. I am not the Queen of England. I am not Cinderella. No one in their right mind is going to sponsor my wedding.quot; These people need to get a job and have a wedding they can afford. Period.|::::|It s that sense of entitlement and delusion that prompt people to think that this is possible. We live in a society where hard work goes unnoticed and people have this keen sense of entitlement and one in which the almighty dollar rules. I agree with you--if a couple can t afford to pay for a wedding (or in some cases their parents can t afford to foot the whole bill), either scale back or save money. I don t want to see people thinking that money grows on trees and that because they re getting married, a special grant should be given to them or special public assistance. Why???? What makes them so special???? Absolutely nothing! I find that couples who think in that regard really shouldn t be marrying and look at a wedding as a big party to throw and show off to people...not necessarily an occasion to celebrate the union of two people.|::::|As long as there has been an idea of charity in our society, there have been freeloaders to take advantage of it. Or at least try to. Now, you see all these people asking for handouts, but do you actually see anyone giving them money for it? Any corporation doling out checks for random weddings? Of course not. They are most likely attention whores screaming quot;look at me! look at me!quot; and not seriously expecting someone to cough up some money.|::::|Its funny, I just chose a best answer for my question about shower gifts. I used that same word, entitled. People think they are entitled to everything! When did our culture become like this? I dont know, but I am curious to see what everyone else says. American culture is very much quot;give me here and nowquot; without having to wait, and with credit companies offering cards to anyone with at least one good hand for writing signatures... there are bound to be a few rotten, spoilt apples!|::::|I wasn t even aware this was a possibility.|::::|Your my hero, I am getting tired of writing adults pay for their own weddings and parties on here. Everyone is a spoiled brat and thinks they are entitled to everything. I am in night school and most of the other girls are in their mid 20s, and they made some weird comment about buying a house. I said, I own a house and they were like a no a NEW house. They all think mommy and daddy pay for a new wedding... hubby bills them a dream house and then they are rolling in money and never have to work again. It s insane. Of coarse all of them still live at home. Parents are not teaching their kids you have to earn things and work your way up. They are not teaching them how to budget money. And all these girls think they are going to marry a lawyer or a doctor. I guess this is what happens when you buy 13 year olds- uggs, wiis, coach bags and tiffany s jewelry for christmas. When I was 13- I got a winter coat and a record for christmas. And we all shared the record player back then- LOL One girls sat in class moaning about how poor she was and she could afford her own apartment. She had a coach bag on her, another coach tote bag, coach shoes, about 10 pieces of tiffany s jewely (with diamonds in them), coach unbrella, 100 jeans and burberry coat, scarf, hat, mittens and shirt on. Her whole outfit must of cost about 100,000 dollars- but she couldn t afford $1,000 rent on her own. Peoples values are quot;Fquot;ing nuts! And these girls are all teachers who only make 40-50,000 a year in the county they work in.|::::|I totally know what you mean! Argh! It bugged me soo badly when I had this discussion with my little sister, we were both getting married around the same time..and she wanted to push her wedding ahead of mine (roll eyes), she was so surprised when she asked me how I was going to pay for my wedding, and I responded, quot;We re going to pay for it ourselves.quot; And she was in shock, saying, quot;What?! You re not going to ask mom and dad for money?quot; I just don t understand how she can live at home and still expect them to pay for everything even though she wants to be married and moving out on her own. I just don t get it. People just want the independence and the party but they just don t want to shell out some hard-EARNED cash for it. Wedding grants (I guess that s what it s called) are a joke. I m glad I didn t stoop that low to literally expect people to cover MY OWN wedding. People like that make me so angry.|::::|The feelings of entitlement,total lack of polite manners amp; etiquette, turning weddings into theme parties and this quot;My day so I can do any d@mn thing I wantquot; and variations of it including wedding attendants and guests being run rough shod over as if their comfort is of no consideration just so the bride amp; groom can indulge in their nonsense and have justifications for it totally floor me at times.. Stealing thunder nonsense and the expectations that one is entitled to have the entire month(s) before or after free and clear of any others weddings even tho you only get one day,demanding that others revolve their own weddings and lives around yours as far as when a date is set,re-dos and fake weddings just to have the experience and nothing to do with the actual sanctity of marriage itself,......it will get to the point that many of these young couples will get so out of control that they will totally destroy the wedding as we know it and send it careening into oblivion....and that s a shame.|::::|Especially in the US (and yes, I live here too!) there is this idea that we are all entitled to something, even if we haven t worked for it. The wedding industry feeds into that (and, to some extent, the college industry as well) by telling us that we need more, more, more. Doves released and big diamond rings and fancy wedding dresses that we will never wear again. And it s ridiculous. If you really love someone, you don t need most of that - you might LIKE it, you might WANT it, but you certainly don t NEED it. But people confused like or want with need (hello, Santa!) and when they can t pay for it, they re real quick to scount around and see if they can get something for nothing. Where do you think all those quot;free surveys, win moneyquot; things came from? People want to get something without having to work for it, and the bigger or better, the more they go after it. After being taught our whole lives that weddings are quot;our dayquot; people will try anything to have the wedding to top all weddings, as they see it. I can t wait for the day that people ask for corporate sponsorship at their weddings, and get companies like Phillip Morris or Starbucks to hand out favors, or contribute decorations (giant cigarette, anyone?). That ll be when we truly hit rock bottom.