Question about marriage and feelings towards it? -

OOPS . . .Posted this question before in the wrong section, so posting it again. I am in my late 20 s and personally never want to get married. I have seen too many friends who have gone down that road and are married and miserable. I know all marriages are not like that as I have a few friends who are happy and would not change it. I had a conversation with a friend last week who is married. She always says to me I will meet a guy fall in love and get married. . .which annoys me. We were talking casually about views on marriage and I mentioned my feelings if I was to ever marry how I would want things. I think a marriage should be 50/50. That each person should have there own account and then an account for joint expenses. I am sorry if you both of you are working hard to earn money then equal money should be put into the relationship and the rest you earn for you. That there should be equal say and an understanding of one another. Each of us should have a room in the house that is strictly theirs to go to relax, decorated however they want and can be a place where they want to go to relax, because lets face it everyone needs there space in a relationship once in awhile. She laughed and thought I was crazy for thinking this way. I am sorry if I am in a relationship with someone there should be equal understanding and trust of each other and the space for it. Am I being unreasonable for thinking this way?|::::|No your not being unreasonable for thinking that way! What ive always wanted was to find somebody who really wanted to be with me as much as i wanted to be with him! ITs easier said than done! Your not being unreasnable in your thinking, because thats what u want and if thats what will make u happy! I HOPE YOU FIND WHAT YOUR LOOKIG FOR!|::::|If you never get married you can have a whole house to decorate how you want. Plus, if you have your own place you only see the people you re dating when you both want to see each other. And if you re not married to a guy, at least you he s with you because he wants to be. A lot of married people can t say that.|::::|You re not unreasonable. We do need our own spaces unless you have identical needs and tastes. Marriage is about compromising and adjusting. If one is not willing to do that, marriages fall apart. But having two separate bedrooms doesn t sound a good idea. You both can have a separate room where you can find a peace of mind.|::::|your funny and right. i almost got married twice and got screwed both times. i think its overrated but it would be nice to someday..who knows when to settle down. all marriage is is a piece of paper that says your in love. but this question is great. but what if you do fall for someone and they fall for you? what would you do or say?|::::|You sound like my Aunt. She s 58 and has never married, is pretty lonely now. Your own room? If you are married and both contribute financially isn t the whole house both of yours? If you need to be alone, run a bath, light some candles and relax. To each their own I guess.|::::|It s ur mind, think however u want. Only u have the power to change ur mind, no one else!|::::|Your too selfish to get married. Stay single or find someone as self as you!|::::|When my husband and I moved in together (as bf and gf) we had a TWO bedroom apt. People do need space. We slept in my room, but in his room was all his computer junk. People do need time apart. Now we have a baby so we have a two bedroom townhouse..but we still have space. Some one once told me quot;If you are in love you don t need space.quot; That is total BS. We share an account now, which I don t really like..but he works full time and I don t. All the money I put into the account directly goes to bills. He pays bills too of course. We are equal. We had all these discussions before we moved in together..about space, finances, household work, working in general..its a good thing to do. You do not want to move in with some one and find out they have completely different values/opinions. My husband and I are very compatible.|::::|i am very happily married for almost 10 years and I wouldn t disagree with anything you have said! I do believe a joint account for family/household expenses is necessary and the contributions to that account agreed on by both parties but I also believe anything after that should be in personal accounts. I also agree everyone needs their own space...that s not a particularly new concept either...men have traditionally had their workshops and women have usually had a sewing/craft/whatever room.