Girlfriend upset about spending money? -

I live with my girlfriend and things are going very well, but she sometimes gets annoyed with the way I spend my money. I earn a fair amount more than she does, and she seems happy when I spend money on her. But recently she bought some simple Christmas cards for her friends, and I bought two separately for two lifelong friends of mine. When she realised how much mine cost me, she felt I had spent way too much and was quite angry. They actually cost just over ￡5 together. I think my purchase belittled her efforts, and made it look as if she cared less about her friends. But at the same time I want to have the freedom to spend as much of my money on what I want. Should I be changing my attitude? Or does she need to be more understanding?|::::|She s your girlfriend, not your wife amp; if you own your own money then do with it as you please. If you re responsible enough to take care of all your priorities first as far as bills, food amp; all the necessities, whatever you have left is up to you as to how you want to spend it, or invest it. By the way forget about what Karina said, putting your money together, like I said she s your girlfriend not your wife.|::::|i think both of you should get together all your money and decide how u spend them, how much goes for payments anf how much u can afford on spendings. of course if you buy some expensive things, and she tries to make economy, she d become mad. And also if you buy something without need and more expensive as it is in reality. You should just discuss it, and dont tell her that you can spend more money because u get more, then she will feel that u are superior and that is not right in a couple. it is normla for man to get more money.|::::|she needs to be more understanding and less jealous. there s no need to comprise on your needs and wants. i don t know how you going to change your attitude cos what purpose will it serve for you to buy cheap items just so you dont create friction with you girlfriend.|::::|well i don t think there s anything wrong with u, ur just spending your money, she needs to be More understanding but at the same time relationship is built on understanding and compromises so you need to talk to her about this and tell her what she s doing wrong.|::::|she may see it as you spend to much on your friends and not enough on her, or she may want you to save for something have you talked to her about it if not you should. |::::|i think she being a bit over the top me and my boyfriend its our money not our own we just tell each other what its being used for and aslong as we have enough then its ok but say like if its down to our last money then we just wait till next payday|::::|I think she needs to get her act together.|::::|its your money, spend it how and on what you want.|::::|she needs to be more understanding|::::|She needs to be more understanding! For gods sake - you bought a nice Xmas card - its hardly worth falling out over!!! xx|::::|i wouldnt worry about it spend the money how you think u should|::::|Thats a hard one. My own partner at times frowns at me for what I spend on perfume/general daft bits. My usual answer is well you smoke (costs a fortune). He earns more than I do, but then what we contribute to the house, is more or less even, and Ive no ffear in drawing money out of the joint account. So why not spend some of your money on yourself. Otherwise, you re working for nothing. And as for the cards, its the thought that counts anyway. She possibly does feel a bit small at times if she knows how much more you earn than her, she possibly cant afford fancy cards.|::::|Well from what it sounds like, I don t think the issue is really about how much money you spent on a card. I think it s just a very mild form of the inferiority complex - it s just hard knowing that your partner can do more then you despite the fact that you guys are living similar lifestyles, together. It may just be that she s insecure that your making more money then her or If you read into it, it may be possible (depending on your circumstances) that she thinks that you regardless of how much money your making, you guys are both working towards the same goal and should probably be spending similarly to work towards your future together. Either way if she was really angry about it, It s definitely worth talking about the bigger picture not just cards|::::|Ok I once had a boyfriend who constantly had a problem with me spending my own money on what I wanted. I made more money then him and he never got mad when I spent my hard earned money on him. So my advice is this YOUR money is YOUR money to spend she does not have the right to tell you what to do with it., This is something you should communicate nicely about with her. I hope you don t think this answer is harsh but as long as your not spending your money on drugs or ignoring bills that need to be paid you ABSOLUTELY can spend your money on what you want and it is completely unfair for her to tell you otherwise. So my friend spend your money your way and make sure she understand that her being upset or angry at this is not right at all. Good Luck!|::::|First rule I ve learned when it comes to arguments: It s rarely about what s said. I don t know how many times I ve gotten into an argument with my girlfriend because of external factors (it s usually because she was hungry at that specific moment!). Getting upset over cards may reflect some other issue or even stress from that specific day, possibly not related to money at all. Showing you understand her, even without agreeing to her specific points would be a win-win approach to consider. So no, you don t need to change your feelings. But you can understand her while still pointing out how her outbursts make you feel (the infamous quot;I statementsquot; work wonders). Also consider if it could be how she feels about those friends, money in general, or the difference between your incomes. It s always best to ask than assume, though! Good luck, merry Christmas, and hope it all goes well!