How do I ask my husband to find another job? -

My husband is currently working for a company who are constantly cutting his hours. He isn t making much now as it is. He has had other jobs making more money, but he wasn t happy with the work he had to do so he quit. I earn more money than him and handle most of the bills, that doesn t really bother me. I have always been pretty responsible with things like that. He got upset when I got a raise here at work, so I just keep things like that to myself now. Lately he has been behind on his own bills, and things are not looking any better. We re expecting a baby in the summer which make me worry about all of this more. i don t know how to approach him about his without sounding harsh or pushing him away. I m really looking out for all of us and our future. I want him to do better.|::::|if u say nothing this is what your going to get. i would just flat out tell him how it is, and how u feel. everyone has to pull their weight, u go for the best job when u have a family.|::::|you have to lovingly tell him if his job is no longer bringing him satisfaction and he is no longer able to keep up with bills then it is past time for him to get rid of this job. ask him if he s thought about what he really wants to do with his life. ask him if he wants to go back to school or if he wants to change careers or start his own business. Talk to him.|::::|well if he s losing hours, and doesn t make much, maybe he can be a stay at home dad and that will save the cost for daycare. you should be able to talk to him about these things. he does need to be happy where he works no matter the pay, because if he s not happy at work, it can transfer to home, and things wouldn t be good at all. try to help him find a job that will make him happy and have better pay.|::::|It is called encouragement. Tell him that he can do so much more and has more talent than he is using at his job. Help him build a new resume and let him start sending it out. At this point in time, I would encourage him to keep the job he has , until a better job come available. So be patient and keep giving him encouragements and he will soon find a job that will allow him to grow with a new company. Good luck.|::::|Well, first I would like to say that is REALLY messed up that he got upset because you got a raise! He should be happy for you, that benefits all of you. Secondly, about his job, the only way to get it out there is just that. Tell him, but nicely. Times are hard these days so you definitely don t want him jumping the gun, just let him know children are EXPENSIVE and he might think about looking at a career change. Good luck|::::|How about you both sit down for a - time to look at the finances/future financial planning with this baby on the way - session. If he sees the coming expenses and see the current incoming monies - he may be more likely to take it upon himself (without you saying it!) to go about getting a better paying or 2nd job...Good luck!|::::|just say something to him. he s your husband..why are you scared? unless you have a reason to be scare, such as abuse, i see no reason why you can t apporach him like an adult and talk about his options and your options. you need to discuss finance, and what to cut back, as well as finding job that is more stable. this is for your child, so you better have the guts to say something to him.|::::|Good lady u are correct to estemate that he might be feeling bad when u r earning more. Keep on with your ove amp; concern for him. Days are not bad forever, so his good days would come again. I, left my job in Sept, amp; that is why till Dec Iam sitting amp; sharing views with others as I still stay back. Reason is something personal as well wating 4 the right time|::::|You are fortunate he even has a job, with the economy the way it is. I would wait till the economy gets better, because its going to be pretty tough to find a new/better one with the way it is now.|::::|With todays job market and economy ...we re ALL lucky to even be able to say we have a job. I say cut back on things in the home to make it work. if he is behind on his own bills...he will eventually do something about it.|::::|This is putting a lot of stress onto you right at the time when you don t need it! Tell him he has to try to improve his contributions, why not try a second job amp; keep the other one for now?|::::|Lay it out in black and white- if he isn t getting at least full-time hours at his job, he either needs a second, part-time job or a new full-time job. Yes, it s just that simple.|::::|That shouldn t matter if you are in love and happy. My ex left for a guy who doesn t even work. They both just sit around and collect from the state but are happy.|::::|How about him being the quot;househusbandquot; after the childs birth??? All problems solved|::::|Just say dude there s better jobs out there.|::::|He needs to want to do better. Why doesn t it bother your that you earn more money than he does and that you handle the bills? You should. YOU are being the MAN in the relationship. He is about to become a father, and THIS is not PROPELLING him to achieve more? Look, I hate to sound harsh here, but this guy sounds like a loser. He needs to try to find a solid job, maybe in your local public works department or as a laborer for a utility company, where the benefits are solid and the salary competitive. Quitters never win, and guys who quit jobs before will do it again. This man needs to be thinking long term, like pension, retirement, etc., instead of paycheck to paycheck with a baby on the way. It s obvious that you will need to go back to work after the baby is born. I think you should seriously consider moving near family who can provide support. This man should have to pay child support through a support collection unit, to ensure that he doesn t default on the payments. I would like to know where HIS father is? It sounds like he needs a good swift kick in the *** and a wake up call to grow up and act responsibly!! You don t want to push him away? WHY NOT?