I am not ready for college. How do I tell my parents? -

I am a Freshman at a state college and I am not doing well at all in any of my classes to the point that finals are right now and I just don t care. I had a feeling getting out of high school I might want to take some time to sort things through and start college in the fall of 2009 after taking time to work, earn money, etc. However, I decided to start school. All semester my parents have asked me how I am doing and I give them the short quot;eh I m doing alrightquot; answer. They do not know that I am failing. How do I tell them that? Also, How do I tell them I want to take this next semester off to do as I had wanted? I want to take the spring and summer off and start again in the fall. I know I will probably get the quot;just do itquot; answers but I need more than that, I need to receive some tips on how to go about it. This whole semester has been a lie. I was not ready for it and some good money has been wasted.|::::|I was the same way. The best thing to do is be honest with them. I am sure they would rather know, than to keep pumping money into your ED. You have got to realize, you aren t a little kid anymore, and your future is your own. You have to do what s best for yourself. It doesn t ultimately matter what your parents think, what do YOU think. Personally I would say chalk this semester up as a loss/learning experience, and come back strong next semester. I did the whole I ll work for a little while then go to school. It doesn t get you very far, and time has a tendency of flying by, so next thing you know your middle aged working at a dead end job, or in my case almost middle aged (30 s) and in college.|::::|You should have at least passed your classes for the credit or dropped them when you were passing and get at least some refund. Just sit down and tell them how you feel. They are your parents and should help you do what you want. The first semester is the hardest. I failed 2 of my 4 classes, but I learned from my mistakes and took more interesting classes 2nd semester. It was better but I haven t declared a major.|::::|Your parents may be dissapointed but, it s best to just tell them. I think if you explain yourself they will understand. Lots of people take a year off to get a plan created. I hope things work out.|::::|your credits will be good when you go back, providing you do not wait too long. However, I think your parents are concerned because they know it is very unlikely you will return - thats just the way that it works. I would stay in school while you still have the support of your parents, its 200 times harder to go back after you have settled into a routine (have bills, job, family of your own, etc.) But if you really feel the need to quit, I say just tell them. You are an adult, you can do what you want. If you do leave, try taking 1-2 classes online or at community college just to keep in the habit of going. That will keep everyone happy but not overload you.|::::|It s your life to live. If you have no desire and you don t really know what your going for there is no point. Don t waste your time and your/your parents money. Go quot;find yourselfquot; have an adventure before you work your life away, find something that interests you BUT give yourself a limit, only a year or so because you may never go back, and you will regret it when you have done nothing with your life. I have also just graduated from high school, i went into nursing not really knowing what i wanted to do and fortunately i love it, but it was super scary. Sometimes you just gotta take those chances, even if it doesn t work out. Good luck and enjoy your time off, don t waste it. Do something cool. Live your life with no regrets for you, it s all you got. Be a good kid but don t always listen to your parents.|::::|Oh my. This is something that you should have told your parents a long time ago (before money was spent and cover-ups had to be made)! To be honest, I don t think that there is any easy way out of this problem. You just have to tell your parents the whole truth. They will surely be angry at you for being less than honest, but they will (eventually) realize that you showed maturity in fessing up. So talk about it with them. They are your parents. They love you and want to help you in any way possible. Best of luck.|::::|Well, have you ever thought of sitting down and just discussing it with them? They may not have a problem with the idea. Also, how many classes were you taking and were you working at the same time? Sometimes if you overload yourself, that may cause some severe problems you can t cope with. I think, that if you aren t on financial aid anyway, try taking one or two classes and work at the same time, at least that way you aren t putting yourself behind with your basics or degree. Maybe have those classes just TR so you can concentrate on homework those days as well and work the rest of the week? I feel your pain. I almost didn t go to college when my friends did, to work, but I m glad I decided against it.