My dad is still cheating on my mum!? -

well you know what, in october we went to my dad s friend s restaurant in town as a family, to celebrate my mums birthday. and to make it worse my dad s mistress was the waitress! i seriously could feel a feeling in the atmosphere, cause i can tell when someones pretending or something Idk how to describe. yesterday my mums friend (my dads friends wife) told her that all this jazza happened within the last few weeks. they found out they were together and yelled at that woman and she went back to vietnam. and my dad got a yelling too. i would still hear him on the phone when my mum was in the shower, and had short conversations.. and then i start thinking, like what if shes in the country, cause my dad sometimes didn t come home and you know those 5-10 short conversations while my mum was in the shower... so i had thoughts she was in the country, but it was only a thought, i had no strong evidence. i just feel SO horrible for my mum cause my dad s been spending crap loads of money and not earning any, while my mum has to support the family, kids, cook dinner, earn money with her minimum wage. PLUS we have to try to fight through this recession! and i have to try and save money with my underpaid wage just incase my mum needs the money :( when my sister or someone tells me all this crap, i become so numb... but then when im like expressing myself i just feel like crying.. like right now What do I do? how do i act towards my dad? I know this is kinda between them.. not me, but I really want to do something, my mum seems so fragile sometimes ! I seriously don t know what to do. We are going to Vietnam in a few days and might see her. If I do i m gonna freaking slap her and cuss at her. I means he saw us as a family together having dinner, ON MY MUMS BIRTHDAY! why didn t she stop?|::::|I know it is hard when a member of the Family finds out that the Father they thought was the best Father, and Husband in the World proved them wrong is something that is not to be forgiven easily. I think that you should have a talk with your Mom, about your suspicions and tell her what your feelings are of this situation, if you explain to her that you feel like what he is doing is not only wrong, but is going to cause a lot of Heartaches between the Family, your Mom should have a long talk with your dad, and she needs to make him understand that she is not going to let him make her a laughing stock, of this affair he is having. If your Dad is the cheating kind than i think your Mom should leave him to make him see that what he does is not appreciated by the Family and if he someday wants to come back to you all than he should change the way he is acting or he will end up being the loser.|::::|YOU SHOULD YELL AT YOUR DAD LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND ASK HIM WHY IS HE DOING THIS TO THE FMAILY! LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH IT HAS AFFECTED YOU. TRY DOING THIS WHILE YOUR MOM ISN T AROUND, MAYBE HTEN HE WILL UNDERSTAND!|::::|you should tell your mom|::::|You need to be calm. One day say quot;mum dad i need to talk to you please. keep an open mind.quot; or just talk to your dad. say quot;this is affecting me. it s tearing me up inside and i just don t understand why you re doing this to us, to me.quot; after having a calm discussion and confronting him about it then maybe it ll be okay. I hope that everything goes well and i m sorry for what s already happened. Good luck!