My future has been ruined, help? -

My fiance split up with me on christmas eve. The thing is, I planned my future on him. I left college so I could help earn money for the house that he has which I was going to move into n coz he didnt want me to go away to uni, n now I cant go back to college and I am stuck with a crappy part time job. I was planning on marriage n babies, n lookin after the house. Now that has been dashed n I am lost. Help? I m 20.|::::|It s wierd sometimes - life seems to have different plans for us than we imagined for ourselves. It must be a shock to suddenly have your plans changed just like that. I would allow yourself some time to readjust to this but in time you will find that things start to change and you will find another path to follow which will be just as good, if not more rewarding for you.|::::|Hey you are young enough to start again, the futures what you make it. Start living for yourself girl!! Good luck.|::::|Of course you still have time. It mite not seem like it now but your just upset. You just have to start all over again. Look for things that can further your career without collage if you really don t want to go back. If you have have the money to go back you could always go to a hospital and ask them what they have their for people without degrees after working a while tell them you want to further your career in medicine and they will pay for you to go to collage of course they have circumstances but doesn t everyone. Try and think or everything don t worry the worlds not over you can do it. =)|::::|No you are not lost. Pick yourself up brush yourself off and start all over again. So he left you. You can apply for loans to go back to college and get a degree. If you don t you will be stuck with that part-time job forever.At least you didn t get stuck with a house you couldn t afford and babies and no husband to help with all of that. You are only 20 and have the world ahead of you. You can do anything you want if you want it bad enough.|::::|look forward to a NEW YEAR.|::::|You are only 20 ? Sometimes couples this young are still trying to figure out who they are and find themselves . They are not quite mature enough for committment . More planning should have gone into this relationship on both of your behalfs . Is there anyway you can sale the home ? Or atleast rent it out? As far as school , just try enrolling for Spring or Fall of 09|::::|My fiance left me right before christmas. I have a job, but I had no car. So I packed up my stuff and started walking in the sleet to my parents house. But thats where the differences between me and you start. I had money saved up just incase. I bought a car that same day. At first, in our relationship, I had my life, my every move based on our future together. But shortly after, I learned that is not the way to go. I go to college online, and I work full time. I let myself go, i gained alot of weight because I thought I didnt have to look for a man anymore. BIG MISTAKE! Your future hasnt been ruined. The one you planned for, and hoped for was. But I think you could be happier if you gained your independence. Get a better job, get your own things going. Then get back to school, do the things that are important to you. amp; for the future when you do get back into a relationship, dont plan your life around theirs because anything can happen.|::::|it s not the end of the world, you have a life ahead of you... plenty of choices to make... it shall pass too! look at your past as an experience cuz no guy can do that again to you|::::|Trust me, in time you ll be glad this happened, but at the moment it s going to be way too raw to see. You ll have many more happy events and many more sad events yet to come, but that s the only certainty in life. I d suggest you get back to college. They take a different attitude to mature students and are conscious of the fact hat for some students, life takes a few bends. Approach several and speak to their recruitment officers or appropriate tutors. You will be surprised what they can do for you. Good luck and no regrets!|::::|wow that guy sounds like a real piece of work. be glad that he is out of your life. can you imagine what might have happened if you wasted anymore time with this jerk? - thank the lord you didn t get married and have kids! you are very young. my advice is to focus on you. try enrolling in a community college for now to get some classes under your belt. in the future, the right guy would never make you give up your education, because they would know it benefits the two of you. make 2009 your year to work on you! :) don t worry - the best is yet to come!|::::|okaay why did u guys break up ?? i would call him up and tell him 2 go to ur house to talk when he arrives tell him how u feeel and what u did for him byee.xxx|::::|Ok, that really sucks, but at age 20 you have reached a bump in the road of life, your future is certainly not ruined. Why can t you go back to college? That is the first thing I would start working on right away. Be happy you have a job at all, keep looking into getting back into school and in the meantime, look for a better job, just don t quit the one you have now. Learn a good life lesson from this. Don t ever plan your future around someone else s life. That s why making these kinds of plans is much better when you are legally married. Even then, husbands leave, you must have a back up plan so you can take care of yourself and your future children. I think this guy did you a huge favor. One day you will look back and see that. Hopefully, this will encourage you to become an independent woman first, get some life experience, enjoy your youth and THEN get married if that is what you still want. Trust me.|::::|You sacrificed your future on this prick? it s your own fault I m afraid you were stupid to pack college in for a man. Now you have to start again.|::::|SOunds to me like your future has just been given a big break. If he is that flakey you dont want to be with him anyway. If he didnt mess you about now, he would soon enough. You are 20 and the world is your oyster. My advice would be save up a bit of money, go travelling to asia /Oz for a few months, get some life experience and it will show you the next step. he is not the end of the world. Trust me I am 28 and still yet to meet miss right. But I am successful and happy and I know that will happen when the time is right. You can go back to college until the day you die. Dont worry! My gran just graduated in Egyptian history. No use whatsoever, but it can be done and she loved it. She is 82... You have it easy, at least you will be able to remember that you graduated! Good luck lady, you dont need it.|::::|Hi I know righ now it seems like your whole world had been torn apart but there is life after this bloke ur probs sick of hearing it but u are only 20 there are so many other guys out there u don t know what the future holds in the long run this ll make u a stronger person but for now just take each day as it comes. An why couldn t he wait until after xmas or before xmas eve ur probs betta off without him hun. Hope i helped :) Can u answer my question plz??? http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...|::::|If you helped pay for the house, your lawyer should be able to get part of the value of the house back for ya... My life s more ruined than yours, if that makes you feel any better.|::::|go back to school to a community college get your degree and Live your LIFE And go practice martial arts so u can kick that bastard *** for wasting your time and future