Husband not interested in celebrating or spending good time with family!? -

Hi, Its almost three years now , since we are married. We have a eight month old baby. My husband is not at all interested in celebrating any occassion. Yesterday was one of those days in which whole world was celebrating but my husband was sad and tired. He did night duty yesterday and slept for few hours and took us out for one hour in a mall.( I think just for a formality). He is the same since past three years. I tried a lot change him but not successful at all. I thought once baby will come in our life then he will be fine. But nothing has changed. Today was the first day of New Year but he is at work. What can I do to make him realise that occassions are meant to be celebrated with family. How can I bring the same excitement in him that I have..... All he knows is - How to earn good money by doing Overtimes..... I am lost. I don t know how to handle him. Any suggestions?|::::|Men are do-er s. He provides for the family out of love. For him he is showing you and his baby love by providing for their needs. Women are more emotional. They show love by providing their emotional needs. It sounds like you have a good man so I don t think you ll have a problem getting him to be more involved in the family. You ll have to reach him on a do-er level not by trying to stroke his emotional side. Remind him how proud you are of him that he is able to support you and the baby with his hard work. Tell him how much you two miss him when he is gone. On days that you would like for him to spend time with the family tell him how you have prepared his favorite meal, rented his favorite movie and are going to provide some fireworks after the baby is in bed. Show him something tangible to prove your love for him. Feelings aren t as important to men as actions. Act as though you need him at home and his manly warrior side will be home to rescue you. Men love being the hero. This may not work over night if it is something you haven t been doing. Keep trying.|::::|This is your mistake, stated by you:quot; He is the same since past three years. I tried a lot change him but not successful at all. I thought once baby will come in our life then he will be fine. But nothing has changed.quot; You don t change people, nor do you impose your point of view on others. If he was the same before marriage, what made you think he would quot;changequot;? Not even a child, can change a man or a woman s point of view. Speak to him, talk talk talk and listen listen listen. If that fails, I am certainly sure, you know what you have to do ! Happy New Year !!|::::|O.K. enough with all the B.S. This mans working hard for you, show him you appreciate it. Get a baby sitter.Meet him at the door when he gets home, with nothing on but a towel. Lead him to the shower and you both get in. After your shower go to the bedroom and fill his every desire. Do all of the extras not just sex. Be sexy for him several times a week. This will chance any mans mood if he thinks he is appreciated.|::::|If he is working overtime because money is tight then that could be the reason. I know myself that doing lots of work plus overtime with a lack of sleep is a sure fire thing for depression. I used to do security work 7 days a week pulling 12 - 18 hour days. Afterwards i was extremely tired and depressed. My guess would be depression.|::::|darling he is a workaholic. you have to accept that.and adjust with it. his love for you has not changed, there is no other woman in his life, he has been the same before marriage. he is not going to change . so whAT is left to do? you change yourself for him and move on. happy new year|::::|You can t change anyone, that is not how the world works. Either you accept him for who he is and love him, or move on.|::::|yes he trying to help you by working .. so a little bit of help from you could help him out of this .. try to support him .insted of complaining ..|::::|Life changes after kids. Maybe figure out how to save more or make money yourself to relieve his burden.|::::|I m really sorry for you. Maybe he s depressed? You should know, he has a condition -OK he s not psycho, but he has a condition. Check it. good luck!|::::|he works hard for your kid..no occasions may be realized by your hubby because he is so focused on his earnings|::::|I don t get why women assume that their men will change if they give birth to their off spring? History has shown over and over, time and time again that babies don t change a man, change comes from self growth and desire, the guy that you married will not be a changed man unless he himself has the want and need to change not for you, not for his child, for himself, change doesn t come fast, it is a lengthy process, sometimes people never change, so if you love your husband, you may have to accept him just the way he is, as this is his character, it is who he is, so instead of trying to fix him and change him, accept him as he is, he sounds like a guy who likes to keep things simple, these types are set in their ways, they don t like to get out of their comfort zones, so the best remedy is simplicity, so be happy with the man he is, and stop stessing over the man he isn t nor will ever be.|::::|Let me get this straight...you are more interested in having a husband who wants to have a good time than having a good man who wants to provide for his family?? Get your priorities straight. he is SUPPORTING you and your baby. It sounds like you stay at home, which is wonderful, but you need to realize that for you to stay home with your baby, your husband must work. By the way, do you even realize how many people in this country would LOVE to have a job, much less be able to get overtime?? Your poor husband is tired yet still takes you to the mall. You need to appreciate his efforts instead of making him feel like he isn t doing enough. I feel sorry for him. =(