Monday, 27 August 2007
Should I risk making a move now or do nothing and wait? -
I m a single guy in my late twenties and my last relationship lasted 3 months from April-June of this year. Since then have been going out more and I ve been on a few nice dates - nothing serious however I wasn t looking for a long-term partner so things have been good for me. Every week I go to the same nightclub and now know all the staff, some I regard as close friends. A couple of months ago a new girl worked in the bar part-time because although she had a FT job in an office she wanted to earn more money for saving to move abroad. She doesn t know if she ll live there permanently but she wants to go for half a year, maybe a year and see how it goes. We have a lot in common I think we re both interested in each other however can t be sure if she sees me as a nice friend because sometimes her body language suggests she is attracted to me and other times only friends! But I m being really cautious, we can t start a relationship now because we d have to break up in 3 weeks. If I made a move (e.g. hold hands, kiss or tell her how I feel) and she backed off then when she leaves then if and when she did come back home I don t think we d be close as we are now. If we were just good friends right now then why is it other friends are making occasional joke/comment about me liking her? And when she comes up to me in the club my friends smile and say quot;here she is!quot; - it s obvious to me and everyone else, so surely it s obvious to her, so should I take the risk and go one step further or just stay as I am and wait to see what happens in the future, even if it is 6-12 months away?|::::|I think that if you can t decide on it definitely, then you should make it clear that you want to keep contact with her, and maybe tell her how much you ll miss her when she s gone. She ll be coming back, so I think it s best to just stay close friends for now, and keep in touch, ask her how she s doing and what s going on in her life. Maybe just give her little hints here and there that you re definitely interested but you would like to take things slow. Hope this helps! You never know, the distance might make her realize how much she likes you (:
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