How do i tell my wife I am no longer interested in her? -

I been married for about 8 months, and I am exhausted. I can t get away from here, I have to deal with her at home and EVEN at work since I am the shift manager at where we work. I get very little chance to talk to other people and even at lunch time when I have some time to sit down with some of the other women, she joins us without even asking if its alright. This time she really crossed the line, I was going to go to a bar with my friend and her sister, and she assumed she was invited and just came along, all three of us were completely pissed off. I never get a one on one time with her sister or anyone else. I want to get out of this marriage because she is selfish and inconsiderate, and to top it off, the house always needs cleaning and the food is always late as well. She is just wasting my life and I can t take this anymore, she doesn t understand the pain and stress she puts me through. I am ready to sit down with her and let her know, and I want to do it soon, not only because f Christmas but because its her birthday too, and the last thing i want to do is wast my hard earned money on someone like her. Can someone please advise me on the best way to say this to her, not only to get it over with fast but also avoid having to get into a long conversation with her.|::::|If you wanted to possibly save your marriage here is some advice: Well as far as the not being able to spend time with any other women.... she might think that she is invited because you are hanging out with other WOMEN. Maybe if you hung out with guys, she wouldn t be so interested. Plus I think that is what a marriage is about... you know being part of each others lives. And the never getting away from her, food being late, and house never being cleaned.... Well you are working, tell her to quit her job. She can stay at home, clean house, make you food, and NOT be around you 24/7. And a little comment: Why would you marry somebody who you thought was selfish and stresses you out all the time? I mean did you two not date at all? So about telling her you want to get a divorce: How about you tell her that You are not good enough for her. Because you expect her to work a full time job, come home, clean the house spotless, cook your diner on time. And on top of it all let you go whore around with other women. While you complain about how bad your wife is. |::::|What s the deal between you and your wife s sister? And I can understand your wanting some alone time, but you want to go to a bar after work with a friend and her sister? Why don t you just come out and say that you made a mistake and should have married her sister? I think this entire question is made up. A joke.|::::|sounds like a joke and you sound like youre just looking for any reason to not be with her. if you really loved the women youd try and work things out. you wouldnt just break it off with her. talk to her about first and ask for changes to be made. tell her you need it or it wont work. but if you really are just not happy to be with her, just be honest.|::::|That poor woman! This is a joke! I would assume i would be invited too! Shame on you and her sister, who you have NO business hanging out with. And maybe the house is a mess and dinner is late because she WORKS!!!! 8mths and your done? you dont deserve her and you werent cut out for marriage. Leave her sister alone! |::::|it sounds like your the wrong person for her... you should have never married her if you didn t think it would last...and your trying to go out with other girls?? see this is why girls don t trust guys because their inconsiderate and dumb... just break it off right now cause she deserves someone better and she needs to realize that.|::::|You are a selfish and inconsiderate prick, you need to share your life with her, not alienate it, she needs to leave your ***, your a f****** BUM! She deserves alot better than you!|::::|Wow you are pathetic. WHy did you get married? She s your WIFE all the things you mentioned are not incorrect PLEASE do HER the favor and divorce her so she can find someone else and not be stuck with you. |::::|DONADKLFJAD;FA WHY WOULD YOU MARRY HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. DONT GO BREAKING HER HEART. AND SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO SIT WITHOUT UR PERMISSION. SHE DOESNT NEED IT. YOU PROMISED HER FOR GOOD OR BAD. FOR DFKAJSDFLK;ASDJF WHATEVER. YOU CANT I HATE GUYS. |::::|You ve only been married 8 months? I say end it already....if you re going this insane after 8 months....there s no way you ll make it till death.|::::|either this is a joke or you are the worst person to ever walk the face of the earth.|::::|You are a sack of s**t.|::::|first, you sound selfish. Talk to her!!!!!!!!! Why wouldn t she think she was invited out with her husband and other women. If there is something that needs done at home then how do you have time to go out? Marriage is HARD and is not a fairy tale, the things you listed are not deal breakers in my opinion. In every marriage both people need space, it is all about communication and how you say things. I can t see that you ever loved her if you could divorce over such petty things. What did you think marriage was? Perhaps she thinks you enjoy her being around. Wow, I glad you are not my husband and I m not being rude but you really don t seem to have a clue |::::|Umm...why did you marry her 8 months ago if you feel like this? I would say you are giving up way to early if you are serious about a divorce and that likely you are the one being selfish and unreasonable! She is joining you because she wants to be around you and wants to spend time with you! If you really need alone time why don t you sit down and talk to her about it. BUT i wouldn t suggest just stating your needs like you re GOD and everyone should do what you say. I would suggest also asking her what she needs from you. That way you guys could compromise, maybe she could come to lunch twice a week and you guys could go out in the evening together a couple times a week and then you could have 3 days of no lunch interruptions and guys night at the bar once a week or something. Women aren t unreasonable, the issue usually lies with the man s inability to communicate and his usual reaction of shutting down and being an *** to his wife just makes her try that much harder to please him, which usually involves more face time! Get over yourself and talk it through and try actually following all those wonderful vows you said 8 months ago!|::::|don t listen to other people. they think ur a jerk and ur not, u just want to be free. so the way i would put it is.... Honey, i need to talk to you( if you guys arent alone). Recently its just been too much for me. I need some more alone time. You know that I love you, but I m not in love with you. I just feel its time that we just call this an end. I m Sorry. (then she ll start crying most likely). hope this helps. alot of people will hate me for this but you need help|::::|Are you serious? I m going to assume that your are, and answer accordingly. Issue #1: You can t get away from her because you work the same shift. Answer: CHANGE HER SHIFT. Issue #2: You can t talk to other women at lunch because she sits with you, uninvited. Answer: You dumb mother ******. . .what the hell do you have to say to other women that you can t say in front of your wife??? Issue #3: You went to a bar with two women, and your wife came along--again, uninvited. Answer: You shouldn t be going bars with other women! Don t you have any guy friends, you-poor-excuse-for-a-man? Your wife isn t the one with the problem. You are. Issue #4: quot;Shequot; doesn t keep the house clean, etc. Answer: Excuse me, but didn t you say that you both work the same shift? Which means that you BOTH work, and are at home at the same time? It is just as much your responsibility to clean the house as it is hers! Jacka$$. Issue #5: She s wasting your life. Answer: No, mother ******. . .YOU RE wasting hers! I won t even bother with the rest. |::::|This is BYFAR the MOST RIDICULOUS issue!!!! DO YOU REALIZE THAT YOU SAID YOUR VOWS....AND YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO MEAN THEM????? PEOPLE LIKE YOURSELF ARE MAKING IT HARDER FOR PEOPLE WHO REALLY DO LOVE EACHOTHER TO GET MARRIED, YOU NEED TO GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE A MARRIED MAN, YOU SHOULD BE MAD BECAUSE YOUR WIFE INTERVEINS ON YOUR LUNCH WITH OTHER WOMEN OR HER SISTER! C MON MAN GET A GRIP!!! YOU SHOULD WANT YOUR WIFE AROUND....HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF DISCUSSING YOUR PROBLEMS AND FINDING A HAPPY MEDIUM???????????? I SUGGEST IF YOU END THIS MARRIAGE THAT YOU NEVER MARRY AGAIN!|::::|The food is always late and the house always needs cleaning ???? What is this ....... the 19th century ? Do YOUR bit mate - you say you are her shift manager at work - well pal you aint at home are you - you are equals remember so get the flipping duster out and get the lamb in that oven. You chauvonistic pig. You think you are something else don t you ? You don t want to buy her a birthday gift or Christmas gift cos you consider it wasting your hard earned cash on her - yet you can go out for a drink with others !!! This has been just 8 months. It seems she has NO idea about how you feel. She can sit anywhere by the way she does not need your permission. Do the girl a favour and release her from the doom you have created and I hope you catch something. What brought you together in the first place hey ? Give her the best Christmas present ever - HER FREEDOM from a terd like you. What about work then mate .................. who is going to leave then - don t think you can hold all the cards she has rights as an employee and should you do anything to jeopardise her earning a living then this is constructive dismissal and YOUR bosses will not be too keen to be taken to court because of yr mess.|::::|I understand how you feel. You have reached your limit in patience... just tell her you do not love her anymore and you don t think marriage was such good idea and you are moving out. don t give her any choices or time to think. tell her the way you want it. but don t piss her off too much because after that you have to deal with the divorce.... good luck to you